Do you want to learn how to get your kids to listen without yelling or repeating yourself a million times, how to stop the backtalk and arguments, and confidently handle meltdowns and disagreements?
Ready to make some transformations to the way you communicate in your home?
5 Communication Tips You Can Use Today!
- Give Them Your Attention: You are busy. I know as a mom you are pulled in a number of different directions all day long. However, when you stop what you’re doing and focus on listening to your child, you send the message: “You are important to me!”
- Listen without Interrupting: Sometimes it’s challenging to sit and listen to your child while they are talking. You may want to jump in and correct grammar, teach a lesson, but the conversation usually ends for your child. Focus on letting your child know that you are listening, say, “Oh” or “mmhmm.” Find an emotion, “that sounds embarrassing!” or ask clarifying questions, “then what happened?“ give your child a chance to think through the situation and come up with a few ideas. Help them evaluate these ideas and, if possible, give them the chance to try out their own solutions before offering one of your own.
- Don’t Criticize: Kids make mistakes all of the time, that’s how they learn and grow. If your child opens up to you, resist the urge to criticize their story or point out all of their mistakes. Instead, listen to their story. If you need to give your child feedback, do it in a way that keeps the lines of communication open: “I wonder if there is another way to tell your friend that you’re upset?”
- Ask Open Ended Questions: Challenge yourself to phrase questions in a way that your child has to answer with more than a “yes” or “no.” Instead of, “Did you have a good day?” ask “What book did you choose to do your book report on?” Instead of, “How was your math test today?” You may try, “What was the hardest question on your math test today?” Phrases like, “I wonder...” or “How did that feel?” may also open up the conversation.
- Give Specific Positive Feedback: Kids know when you’re being sincere and when your comments are less than genuine. When you see or hear something remarkable, mention it specifically, “You really showed a lot of courage trying out for the solo part in chorus today.”
Before you know it, you’ll notice a shift in your conversations. As you practice and perfect these communication tips you will become a role model for your child to emulate into adulthood! That’s a win win for both of you! Plus don’t forget these lifetime skills can also be used with your spouse, friends and coworkers.
If you have a specific communication issue with your child that you would like to talk about, please feel free to reach out to me and schedule a 30 minute Connection Call at http://repairentingllc.com/book-an-appointment/